According to the Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence, (http://ei.yale.edu/) emotional intelligence or EQ predicts over 54% of the variation in success (relationships, effectiveness,health, quality of life), and “young people with high EQ earn higher grades, stay in school, and make healthier choices.”
Psychologist Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ, was one of the first people to raise awareness of EQ. He talks about five components of emotional intelligence.
- Self-awareness. Knowing our own emotions.
- Self-Regulation. Being able to regulate and control how we react to our emotions.
- Internal motivation. Having a sense of what’s important in life.
- Understanding the emotions of others.
- Social skills. Being able to build social connections.
Since Golemans book was published in 1995, research has proven the importance of EQ. Numerous studies have found that the benefits of teaching emotional intelligence programs to kids include: Improved social skills, productivity, academic performance, leadership skills and attention, in addition to reducing anxiety, depression, and instances of bullying between students.*
Children with high EQ are more able to handle complex social situations and build meaningful friendships. In older children and adults, higher EQ is linked to internal motivation and self-regulation.
Emotional intelligence is important for a successful, happy and thriving life.
Worryingly, a 2016 report found that Emotional intelligence quotient scores are in decline all over the world (http://www.6seconds.org/2016/04/04/state-heart-2016). Some experts blame the decline on increased stress and anxiety levels. Others cite our increased reliance on technology and social media for communication, resulting in the loss of basic face-to-face social and emotional skills that are so crucial to interpersonal relationships.
Whatever the cause, the decline in EQ is a concern, and the need to teach our kids EQ is increasingly important.
The good news is that emotional intelligence can be taught and learned at any age.
As parents and caregivers, our kids largely learn from us. When we don’t have a healthy way of handling emotions ourselves, we have trouble teaching our kids to handle theirs. The change starts with us and this is why Our Thriving Kids offers workshops and classes for adults as well as our kids.
Give your child the best gift you can: An emotionally intelligent YOU!