Self-esteem is the way we view and think about ourselves, and the value we place on ourselves.
Having the human capacity to judge and place value to something is where we can run into problems with self-esteem.
Having good self-esteem means accepting and feeling positive about ourselves. Self-esteem is an important part of conﬁdence. Particular ways of thinking are very important for building conﬁdence.
We all criticise ourselves from time to time, but having a generally negative overall opinion of ourselves may be an indication of having low self esteem. Low self-esteem can have a negative impact on many aspects of our lives. It can affect our kids performance at school, their relationships, and make them more susceptible to ongoing bullying from others. It may affect their ability to participate in and enjoy recreational activities and can cause them to withdraw from activities and people. Low self-esteem can be a problem in itself and is also a risk factor for other problems such as depression, eating disorders, social phobia and excessive alcohol or drug taking.
On the other hand, good, positive self-esteem empowers our kids to pro-actively cope with problems which will inevitably come their way— rather than seek to avoid them.
For our kids to thrive, we need to ensure that they are given a healthy environment that encourages self-assurance. When families and educators work together to promote high self-esteem in children, they are also making it possible to increase students’ motivation to learn, attend classes and participate in school activities.
As parents and caregivers of our kids, our own attitudes toward ourselves have a powerful effect on our childrens’ self-esteem.
In the book, ‘Self-Esteem: Paradoxes and Innovations in Clinical Theory and Practice’, Bednar, Wells, Peterson, & Washington write that “the degree to which parents have resolved their own questions of personal self-esteem will have more influence on their children than anything they might attempt to teach them verbally.”
This is why Our Thriving Kids offers workshops and classes for adults as well as our kids.
Give your child the best gift you can: A model for Healthy Self-esteem!